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10 April 2026
A personal reflection — April 2026 We all have relationships with different levels of stickiness. Different things bind them together and make them work. Some are friendships, some are family, some are built on love — and some are all three at once. But whatever they are, they…
18 March 2026
This weekend I went to Jersey... It has been on my radar to go there for a number of years, but I have not ever got around to it. Last week I was in London for my boss' leaving drinks and as the route back to IoM was looking choppy with flights and boats cancelled I took the…
8 February 2026
After the superb end to last year which saw me return to doing some things I have not done in a loooong while... January was set to be a bit of a downer. I had manflu which I was struggling to shift and the weather on the island was not just bad it was horrific!!! But I had…
16 January 2026
It was a few days after my birthday when I got a call from my best friend Dave to wish me happy birthday. Usually I get a text telling me I am an old fart and I haven't visited... but he called this time. I always love it when Dave calls as we just can talk crap for hours! This…
16 January 2026
Well what an end to 2025! It started off not so great with me trying to get to meet a guy I am interested in, but seems that he ended up being ill so it didn't happen. I decided I would get the ferry from Dover to Calais then go across France and look at houses in midi-pyrenees…
20 November 2025
I have been going on a few dates lately, and it's weird territory for me as I had been in a relationship for best part of 6 years with a guy I really liked but it didn't work out for reasons I will likely never know (but that's a whole different story and there is a completely…
13 November 2025
This week I went on a couple of dates, one guy I had two dates with - and he's a lovely guy! So why am I sitting here thinking I still wish I was with my ass hole prick of an ex? (note he's not an ass hole or a prick, what he did was super wrong but hey... you get my frustration…
8 November 2025
Earlier in the week I talked about curve balls, and about how my friend Brian had ben diagnosed as terminal and moved to a hospice. Being a friend (and just human) I had made arrangements to go see him in the hospice this morning... so well laid plans of getting on Manxman last…
5 November 2025
I have lived on the Isle of Man for well over a year, and from a mental health perspective it has been very good for me as it has given me time away from particularly Birmingham and away from the crazy business I created. I am the first to admit though it is far from perfect...…
28 October 2025
Last week I was away travelling and because I have not really done a lot in a long time "fun wise" I decided I would try put myself back out there a little bit. So I got chatting to a nice couple, about my age who lived near where I was travelling and were interesting. They had…
11 October 2025
The past few days have been hard. A friend of mine who I met on island has been going through a bad time and yesterday decided to try and take his own life. I knew something was not right Thursday when I could not get hold of him and by Friday I was looking for him and no one…
4 October 2025
Storm Amy has just passed and now I am sitting in sunshine looking out towards the golf course, slightly sheltered from the wind with the little hill between me and the sea. I am always amazed how people on the island whinge when there is a storm and trees fall down as it takes…
22 September 2025
Well, I did it, I decided to ditch the PC and move everything to Mac! I have been with Mac before and started the journey a few years back when I moved the desktop PC to Mac mini, then bought an iPad (mainly so I could play my piano), and invested in Apple TV (as I do actually…
22 September 2025
I have tried to buy 4 properties on the Isle of Man and each time either the offer has been rejected, or the property turned into a bidding war. The most recent turned into a "we want more money so put in a sealed bid with your highest offer" - this is a level of nuts! I get…
17 September 2025
Something weird is happening inside my head and I don't know what it is... For many years I have travelled on planes, like literally all the bloody time! Now being honest I don't really like flying but have always seen it as a necessary evil (now don't get me wrong I love planes…
21 August 2025
Why do I end up being the person that tries to help everyone? I went to Gear Blast again this year and ran into Mitch. Now Mitch is a lovely guy, but at that point in his life where he does not know what the hell he is doing. Unfortunately he lost his job as a result of being…
20 November 2012
For the first time ever I went out for the afternoon/evening with my parents on the town. Now some of you out there may have the opinion that you dont go out drinking with your parents, and others may be thinking why havent I done this sooner. Well to answer those in both camps,…
21 November 2011
I'm a firm believer in you make your own luck. Now this time last year I lived two mins from the office, had a personal trainer, travelled the country with work and got home pretty often to see the folks and my lovely little nephew. Now the strategic imperative this time last…
4 November 2011
Well it's been an interesting few months so here is a brief summary of the changes gone through :) - I have moved house, eventually.. It took an entire month to move and I kinda forgot how much stuff I own. As a result I have spent a fortune on new furniture for the place. And…
25 September 2011
During periods of reflection... well.. ok the past week. I have come to realise that there is far too much complexity in life. Whether it be the idiot in accounts who has decided that my expenses dont need paying this month, or the eruptive and destructive nature of…
23 September 2011
I was once told the definition of being promiscuous is sleeping with more than 6 people a year. Now in gay boy terms thats a bad year! Honestly I have probably slept with more than 6 people a year for a few years. This I believe is normal. When going for sexual health screening…
12 August 2011
Good morning England. Well what a week we have had. With mass rioting, joys of vodahell and the politics of evil Corp! But things are looking up. Well I am currently sat opposite a very attractive young guy wearing a White tight shirt. (may even try and get a pic!!!). Likewise I…
23 July 2011
Now this is where I have the "is it me" or "is it others" problem? To explain lets go back a 18 months ago, when I went to my friend Alan and Russ' party. Now im not very good at meeting new people and openly admit to shitting myself, and turning into a bit of a twat in order to…
14 July 2011
Why is it that we have a natural disposition to trust figures of authority? Especially if they are in uniform... This particularly extends to the gay world of dom/sub - which I really ain't gonna go into here but let's just say the sub usually like to be the one not in control…
27 June 2011
Yay! For once I can say.... actually things whilst they are not going "amazingly" well they are not exactly going bad.... 1 - The new job is full of arse holes and wankers... and yes I still refer to it as "Evil Industries" although not on facebook anymore in case anyone from…
10 June 2011
Ahhhhhh yet again the train journey to work. Although today I'm being a lazy bastard and have only just got on the train with my Starbucks skinny latte. I went out last night with the comms group (the team I am aligned to). It was one of those ex bank swanky bar affairs. Lovely…
3 June 2011
Sat on another train heading into the office, and it's broken down... While I'm on it! But to be fair, I spent all day yesterday and today working from home. Now going into office for lunch with friend, book a room for Monday's client meeting, and to get drunk in soho after…
23 May 2011
So I have been at new job now for just over two weeks and on a project for a week. I'm definitely settling in and getting used to it but it's a far cry from my old job. Now I have to really do work and meet client expectations! Tonight I left the office at 7.30 and went on a…
20 May 2011
The police are a vested pillar of our society who serve and protect.... Yeah right! My actual view on the police is that they have very much lost their way in today's society. When sir Robert Peel set them up the intention was for ordinary people to protect the laws of the land…
16 May 2011
Well as you can possibly see from the title, I eventually went to see Billy Elliot at the theatre. What can I say, this is the best thing I have ever seen at the theatre. It was my very last day at my old job, I handed in my key card, gave my boss a cuddle (definitely making him…
1 May 2011
Well my 10 day vacation has come to an end. I sit here in Copenhagen on the sofa in the hostel thinking about what time I need to be at the airport. So far this vacation we flew into Gotenborg in Sweden where we managed to see a dead person get pulled from the canal. After being…
28 April 2011
Here we are again, well kinda. Technically I'm on a train from Stockholm to Copenhagen on a lovely summers day, sat in first class drinking coffee listening to Pet Shop Boys Live at the O2 on my iPhone whilst writing this blog on same said device. The next few weeks are set to…
2 July 2010
Yes its true... I am still extremely fucked up.... Certain str8 boy said that I am destructive and seek to self destruct every relationship I hold dear, and fuck me he is so right... lets look at the facts (and my sordid history on this....) 1 - The first bf.... we will call him…
13 June 2010
The roller coaster that is my life, well im on a high... but a low at the same time. I still love my job lots, and its still the single entity I cling to for dear life to keep me sane... but of late... priorities have changed... and for the better... Im pleased to say that me…
23 March 2010
Well yesterday i wrote an entry that was an attempt to be positive... I am an upbeat person on the whole... especially when im in kid mode... which is pretty often... well... ok when im happy... (or at a theme park!). Today I find myself on a tin can on wheels (or train!)...…
22 March 2010
Recently it was suggested to me that I may find it thereputic to write about positive things on my blog rather than negative ones... even though I dont tend to see the things that I write in such a negative light... but hey! So.... based on this... lets give it a go! :) As you…
3 February 2010
As you have previously read - last year I actually met someone who saw me for the person I was (and not the act we all hide behind when we are trying to sell ourselves). But as ever there were problems... It all started summer last year when I was recovering from my mouth…
7 November 2009
We all have music collections and songs that we love. But music is more than just a great tune, well it is for me. It opens memories of what that song means to me. Be it that there is a song that reminds you of a person, or there is certain songs that have lyrics that mean…
7 November 2009
Well the first question is what does real friendship mean to me? - Someone who is there for you through thick and thin. - Wants to be with you and spend time with you, without a reason. - Offers advice and help. - Someone who you can call and speak to, who wont bounce your calls…
27 October 2009
Well yet again this has been a strange old time in my life... it seems things never really go the way I want them to, but alas this is the deck I have been dealt and you have to play the cards you have. As you may know I started to see a councillor at the begining of this year…